A volcano goes through stages that lead up to an explosion; from steam and ash venting to lava build-up and eruption. Speaking up when you initially feel the need can keep an inner volcano dormant and avoid a verbal eruption.
“Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
Speaking up even before you need to let off some steam is a good place to start. It means that you are so in touch with how you feel that you don't need to wait until steam has built up from the chronic stress of resisting healthy emotional expression.
If you get to the point in your communication that you need to vent a little steam it's best to begin with 'I am feeling' rather than 'you make me feel' or 'so 'n so makes me feel' because as soon as you blame someone else for how you feel you have given that person all your power and you have become a victim.
By the time you reach the boiling point where verbal ashes need to be vented, that's a good time to write in a journal or on a pad of paper to get your thoughts out of your head. When you finish you can burn the paper in a fireplace and literally turn it into ash.
Once you've reached the stage of lava build-up where you feel like you're going to erupt from rage that needs to be expressed, this is when you need to have your emotional explosion in a safe environment away from other people. The stored up energy needs to be released from your body through vigorous physical movement and deep exhalations with the intent to let go of anger. After that it will be safe and more effective to communicate with another person about what needs to stop.
To keep your inner volcano dormant it's important to be self-aware. Pay attention to how you feel on an emotional and physical level. Your soul communicates with you through emotions, physical symptoms and intuition. When you listen to your soul's guidance at a subtle level you will avoid the unpleasant experience of being shaken up to get your attention.
Issues with your throat chakra are a sign that you need to speak up. From throat clearing and coughing to a sore throat and vomiting (or other symptoms in this area), if you realize that you need to speak up, and do so in a healthy way, the physical discomfort can go away.
Speaking up for yourself is a good habit to get into. Speaking up for others who may not be able to speak for themselves is an act of compassion. One area this is often needed is in healthcare when your own intuitive guidance does not agree with the direction that western medicine wants to take you. Always tune in to the wisdom of your soul before you agree to any course of treatment for yourself, a child or an elderly parent.
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